A toxic relationship is one in which the harmful or destructive behavior of one or both parties halts or damages the physical, spiritual, and emotional well being and growth of the other partner. This can occur as a result of abuse, addictions, or infidelities. Unfortunately, the result of being in a toxic relationship is often a lowering of self esteem as the other partner’s hurtful actions and words send the message that the victimized partner is inferior, incapable, worthless, or even crazy. Fortunately, there are steps you can take to help you boost your self esteem following the end of a toxic relationship. Here are 3 tips for rebuilding your self esteem:
1. Stop contact with your toxic ex partner. Especially in the early stages, you can consider yourself somewhat fragile and worthy or emotional care and protection. If your ex is truly toxic and there is no true change, interaction with your toxic ex will only reopen the wound. Your ex may use the same tactics that worked in the past to draw you back into some kind of relationship in which he or she can exert control over you — which is something you want to avoid, so you are no longer vulnerable to the manipulative tactics of your toxic ex. If you must have contact due to shared children, keep the contact limited to the business matter at hand. If your partner tries to get personal, disengage and hang up or leave. We have many more Self Help Articles Now Available.
2. Spend as much time as you can with your support network. These are your supportive friends and family who can offer you positive messages about you to help counteract the negative programming you experienced with your ex. The other benefit to spending time around your friends and family is that it helps fill the void in your social calendar that was once filled by time with the ex.
3. Take good care of yourself. Make yourself a priority. Exercise according to your doctor’s recommendations as regularly as possible. Eat healthy foods, preferably organic, unprocessed choices. Take vitamins and supplements if needed – check with your naturopath. Most people can benefit from a food based multivitamin and fish oil. Journal your emotions, and speak to a counselor about the situation if your emotions seem overwhelming. Send yourself the message that you are worth the time and energy required to care for yourself well. We have many more Self Help Articles Now Available.