Are you a mother headed for divorce with a newborn child, toddler or even a teenager? This can be a very difficult, stressful and emotional time period for you. There are some many things to worry about when it comes to divorce, especially when children are involved.
You may be like many other mothers who are facing divorce and are worried about finances of surviving on your own. Maybe you are a stay at home mother who been out of the workforce for many years. I know you’re probably worried about what will happen to the children, who gets the house, the cars, the money in the bank and so many other things you rely on. We have many more Divorce Tips Articles Now Available.
#1 Tip For Mothers Getting Divorced
Be prepared and don’t wait until the last minute to get things done. First of all make sure you are properly represented by a lawyer who understands your needs, someone who you are comfortable with and most of all one that you feel is going to fight for your rights and property. Mostly lawyers will give you a free no cost consultation. Take advantage of that consultation to get answers that are immediately on your mind.
Learn Divorce Strategies
After you find a divorce lawyer you can afford, relate to and are comfortable with, the next step is to plan a divorce strategy and stay ahead of the game. Figure out your finances and property right away. Get copies of deeds, bank records, credit card statements and start jotting down daily notes about your spouse’s activities and responses to your conversations. How does your spouse react to topics of conversion, are there any promises made and is there anything you can find out that they would fight tooth and nail for. Keep good notes on dates and events, because when you have to remember the details 1 month to 3 years from now, you don’t want to rely on memory alone, and it looks better with the court if you’re more detailed than your spouse. Plus it gives you more credibility because you’re not saying things off the top of your head
Protecting Your #1 Possession – The Kids
As a mother you are probably worried more about the children then any personal property. Divorce secret that most lawyers, your friends and family will not tell you is that custody these days is in favor of 50% parenting. If the courts have to decide custody, that is what they will decide unless you can come up with solid evidence against your spouse. Leaving the toilet seat up, coming home late from work and even infidelity are not considered in court as a reason to give mothers primary custody these days. He either needs to be an alcoholic, drug user, criminal or abusive to legally have a case against him. If not your best bet is to get him to agree to a more favorable child custody arrangement. There are however many unspoken strategies to secure your children, property, money and sanity, but you can learn about them through self education. These are just tips —> You should consult a lawyer for proper legal advice based on experience. We have many more Divorce Tips Articles Now Available.